Common Language
In SRSP we teach the students a "common language" to cue positive behaviour. Too much language being directed toward a student when they are upset, or making unwise choices can go unheard or possibly not understood. The behaviour expectations are taught to the student and then a cue for this behaviour is taught. For example, we teach the students how to make quiet transitions, what that looks like and what the purpose of a quiet transition is. The cue that is taught is, "Are you making a quiet transition?", or, "Can you make a quiet transition?" Below is a list of some of our common language that you may want to adapt and use at home.
"What is your job right now?"
"Follow staff (mom's) instruction on first ask."
"Are you making a good choice?"
"Keep your problems small."
"Is that hurtful or helpful?"
"You need to show me F.E.V.E.R."
You may want to use this concept at home and come up with your own family common language that cues the appropriate behaviour. Be creative and involve your child so they have some ownership in it. It can be as simple as saying "break time" when your child needs a time out.
"What is your job right now?"
"Follow staff (mom's) instruction on first ask."
"Are you making a good choice?"
"Keep your problems small."
"Is that hurtful or helpful?"
"You need to show me F.E.V.E.R."
You may want to use this concept at home and come up with your own family common language that cues the appropriate behaviour. Be creative and involve your child so they have some ownership in it. It can be as simple as saying "break time" when your child needs a time out.